Annoyed by a person who's only physically present during the rites

edited some phrasing

Since last night, during the rites..

• he kept fidgeting
• talking to his wife
• looked around
• looked to his back
• had to be nudged by his wife to bow (while looking around)

For the morning, during the rites..

• he kept fidgeting
• talking to his wife
• looked around
• looked to his back
• looking at the crew who was handling the drinks
• brushed his body against his wife in a quarter-circle
• held the joss stick in one hand

Felt like blasting him, "If you are so dis-interested, why not stay away?"

Later I realised that he was looking into the general direction of his car (to his left). But that doesn't explain why he looked to his back and his right. That doesn't explain why he kept looking backwards in the crematorium, where his car was out of sight.

Show some respect, not the motions.