When are you getting married?

Starting *from* my one-month anniversary with ST, I have been bombarded *weekly* with *THE* question. 24 weeks later, I found my courtesy at its end.

I didn't snap at anyone. I brushed off the question as normally as I could, then put a "warning" on my MSN that I'll not entertain further questions.

Well meaning as they probably are; I don't like how the question is followed by a reference to my age, "But you are so old already..."


I don't think my life purpose is to find the stream of my birth, spread my genes and die quietly. I would like to think that finding a special someone is not for the sake for her ability to bear me children. I want her because she is who she is.



A relationship does not have to lead to marriage. A marriage does not have to lead to having children. These things will happen in their own due course; not because I am so old already; not because marrying a woman is to let her be the mother of your child.

When it happens, it will be obvious; you won't be getting an invitation from out of the blue.

Photograph by Peter Essick