Wisdom?...

Hardening hearts make repairs difficult.
Sad that wisdom learnt seems like a visit by Karma.

What makes a good place, good?

Years later, and I think, "Should I have stayed?"
Young and dissatisfied, I wanted to get what life owed me.
When the pursuits of wealth turns empty, then what do I want out of life?
Now, almost a decade later, I wonder, "Should I have stayed?"
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source: http://th05.deviantart.net/fs70/PRE/f/2012/046/c/0/perhaps_she_should_have_stayed_in_her_cage_by_kristinellinson-d4pv81h.jpg

What is one's worth in life?

We started our education as soon as we're aware.
20 years later, we have to work else we'll starve.
10 years after that, we have to get married, else we're losers, and doomed to loneliness.
If we get kids, then we support them till they're old enough to get married, and more.
If our partner pass away, we go on with life, crippled.

Who or what are we living for?
Our tummy?
Our kids?
Our partners?
Ourselves?
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Twined

I placed you as my center
I know I'm in for heartbreaks
This room represents you
I'll be waiting for you

Thoughts on Management patterns

subject: Thoughts on Management patterns

Loyalty
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Loyalty cuts both ways.  An organisation should reward a loyal staff.  If an organisation does terminations mercilessly, then staff morale will be badly affected, which in turn makes it hard to build loyalty.

Get it done today
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A lack of respect for an employee's personal time.  Bosses often do so to hand in their own deliverables timely.  Yet, shouldn't there be a consensus on when the work can be completed?

Deliver it as you promised
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Many managers insist that the promised delivery date is to be fulfilled. Are managers glorified time keepers?  Or should they, with their experience help to spot potential problems before they happen?

I don't think it needs 5 days
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This either produce a slipshod work in the end, or force the employee to put in serious overtime.  Like, "Get it done today", the manager would appear uncaring.

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Year 2012 in summary

An escape from hell.  A stay in limbo.

Two long awaited unions.  A return to water.

A rude experience.  Long overdue task.  

An uphill task.  A penny short.

A sad news.  A sad injustice.

Disturbed...

Knew of several friends who had problems with their marriage, in this year alone.

Sad because they are my friends.

Disturbed cause it makes the national statistics of 25% divorce rate seem so real.

I want to believe that love conquers all.  That the pledge to each other is long and binding.

I wish them all the best.

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I have church on Sunday...

Fair enough.  Though whenever plans come up, this comes up as an immovable block of stone.
I question the enthusiasm that you showed for the event, which I had kept you in mind for so many years.
I wonder.  Does missing a session makes one a lesser person?  If so, does going to church on another day lessen the experience?
Your public display of piousness is admirable.  I question your clarity.
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My loves

Games
They suck you in.  You puff and puff on them, feeling bliss along the way.  Kinda like a smoking addiction, if you ask me.

Books
If games suck you in, books wrap you in.  You won't have withdrawal, but once you're in it, the sun can rise and fall and you won't be aware.  Sure, games does that too but the immersion is on a different level.

The other half.
Games + Books.  Enough said.
 

picture from:  http://lynmidnight.blogspot.com/2012/02/when-man-loves-book-character-vs-plot.html
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Selling oneself

Over the last few years, I got a nagging feeling that my resume is not up to scratch.  Yet, whenever I open up the file, everything looks in order.  "It's functional and detailed", I thought, and filed it away.

Recently, I've been doing some revision on it.  The more I look over, the more I trim.  Stuffs that I used to boast are now laughingly simple to me, and not worthy of mention.  Still, something is amiss; I can't put my finger on it.

After several phone interviews, I had an idea of what I'm lacking.  Date of birth; experience in functional and technical skills; full project cycles; summary of what each job was about; expected salary; summary of skillsets.  I will work on this soon.
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NYT: A Catholic Classmate Rethinks His Religion

JW: This is not "safe" for FB consumption, so I'm exercising my right of expression in posting it here.  I found the story of the classmate in his soul search thought provoking, so I'm sharing it here.  This however, is not indicative of my support/or hate against any religions and sexual orientations.

Excerpt:

During our recent correspondence, he said he was sorry for any impression he might have given me in college that he wasn't open to the candid discussions we have now. I corrected him: I owed the apology - for misjudging him.

He grew up in the South, in a setting so homogenous and a family so untroubled that, he said, he had no cause to question his parents' religious convictions, which became his. He said that college gave him cause, starting with me. Sometime during freshman year, he figured out that I was gay, and yet I didn't conform to his prior belief that homosexuals were "deserving of pity for their mental illness." I seemed to him sane and sound.

He said that we talked about this once - I only half recall it - and that the exchange was partly why he remembered me two decades later.

Questioning his church's position on homosexuality made him question more. He read the Bible "front to back and took notes of everything I liked and didn't like," he said.

"There's a lot of wisdom there," he added, "but it's a real mistake not to think about it critically."

Full article here: http://mobile.nytimes.com/2012/03/25/opinion/sunday/bruni-a-catholic-classmate-rethinks-his-religion.xml?single=1&fb_source=message
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Sleeping early

I stopped gaming at 10pm, and fell asleep soon after.
Maybe I should do that more often.  Hmm?

Frustrated with the state of things

This had been in the brew for about 2 years.  You think things can't get any worse, and then fate proves you wrong.
I've never had such a low in my life, yet it's good to have supportive friends and a spouse who argues on your side.  And for a few seconds, you do agree with them.
However, it matters not what the truth is, but what the larger proportion of people believe in.  I believe it is time.  You can't beat them all.
Sometimes the way to advance, is to retreat.

picture source: http://blog.smartercomics.com/blog/2011/05/what-do-the-numbers-tell-you.html

Karma

For the record, I don't believe in karma; I believe in retributive justice.
Not that I act it out, but that's what I hope for anything.
Some days, when someone does me wrong, I absorb it and say, "it's on his karma".
That doesn't mean I believe in karma, but in the sanctity of his soul.

Good person? Bad person?

A good person can be a bad person.
A good person can be a bad boss.

A good boss can be a bad person.
A good boss can be a bad boss.

Logic debate

Set A has shortcomings doesn't mean set B is true.

Set B has contradictions doesn't mean set A is true.

The rights of a consumer

Had two unhappy incidents recently over services rendered.

One, we went to a bar and were seated outside.  The seats were wet so we requested for a change.  However, the waiter refused, "If I change for you, I'll have to offer customer who come, wet seats.  You get what I mean?"
Sorry, I don't.  You're saying that you are going to give us wet seats, while your imaginary future customers will get served better?

Two, I directed my taxi to my lobby.  Upon sighting the main road across a block, he questioned why I didn't get off from the main road and walk in?  "Some drivers hate coming into carparks like this, and having to get out".
Well, if I wanted to walk, I wouldn't have taken a taxi.

Much have been said of demanding customers.  Yet, what was said of customers who were given bad services and kept quiet about it?  I did keep quiet.  On reflection, I wouldn't accept such crap in future.

Yahoo Mail upgrade

I had been a long time supporter of Yahoo Mail.
But admit it, they've been sitting on their laurels for too long and lost their standing.
Where Google Mail had multiple selection, I had to select my spam mails in Yahoo Mail, one by one.
Where Google Mail allows you to drag and define your calendar appointments, I had to fiddle with the start and end time in Yahoo Mail.

Now, they have a massive upgrade, with link up to Facebook and Google+.
Question is, is it too little, too late?

Gifting...

The small gifts maintain the relationship; the big ones get remembered.

-JW, 2011

Barnes & Noble Welcome Coupon - reply

At least there's a personal reply. However, can't help feeling disappointed that the welcome is not sincere. Still, they could have not offered me anything and I wouldn't be upset.
Lesson: Never offer, if you can't follow through later.